Just as presence is vital during the dying process, what comes after death also matters deeply. Ingrid offers grounded support in the time following a loss, honouring the deceased, supporting the bereaved, and tending to the sacredness that remains.

Whether through grief companioning, remembrance rituals, or nature-based memorials, these offerings recognise that love, memory, and connection continue beyond death.

Grief does not follow a fixed path, and mourning takes many forms. By creating spaces for expression, ritual, and reflection, Ingrid helps individuals, family, and friends to move through the aftermath of death with care, meaning, and healing.

Shrouding is a tender and sacred gesture of love, respect, and care offered shortly after death, ideally within the first hour after the last breath has been released, before the body begins to change. It involves wrapping the deceased in cloth with great care, presence, and love.

This intimate act is not a practice or performance, but a deeply human expression of honour and farewell. Whether done in silence, with prayer, music, or words, it marks the threshold between life and death with respect, dignity, and heartfelt reverence.

Ingrid offers support or guidance with shrouding as part of your private farewell before caretakers will transfer the body. She helps to create space for this final act of care to be carried out in a way that reflects the values and wishes of the individual and their loved ones.

A post-death service offering emotional, spiritual, and practical support for those left behind. Grief companioning may include one-on-one conversations, gentle coaching, reflection, breathwork, meditation, or guided (group) sharing.

Each session is shaped by where you are in your process. Creating safe, non-judgemental spaces to feel, honour, and express your grief. Whether soon after a death or months later, support is tailored to your unique journey. Ingrid hosts an online gathering called 'Tea with a Death Doula' once every 2 months to sit with life, death, and grief too if that calls to you.

Rituals after death help carry memory forward in meaningful and healing ways. Ingrid supports individuals, families, friends, or communities in creating personalised remembrance ceremonies. Indoors, outdoors, or woven into daily life.

From candlelit evenings to tea or seasonal nature rituals, each ceremony is shaped to reflect your loved one’s spirit, values, and story offering connection, comfort, and beauty in the act of remembrance.

A sacred anointment ritual can be offered before, during, or after death marking a profound moment of transition.

This profound act using special selected oils brings comfort and honours the sacredness of life’s threshold. The gentle act of anointing carries ancient significance across cultures symbolising blessing, protection, healing, and peace. It creates a sacred container where presence, love, and intention flow freely, offering comfort and solace to both the individual and their loved ones.

Each ceremony is adapted to reflect personal beliefs, cultural traditions, and individual wishes, making it a unique expression of honour and care. Whether as part of conscious preparation, support during the dying process, or as a 'goodbye for now', anointing holds space for sacred transition and spiritual connection.

As a horticulturist, herbologist, and death doula, Ingrid offers guidance in creating sacred gardens or meaningful plantings that provide peace, comfort, and connection.

These spaces become places for quiet reflection, shared moments, fun, remembrance, and deep presence. Each sanctuary is thoughtfully designed to reflect personal values, wishes, preferences, and connections to nature and lost loved ones or experiences offering a living expression of love and serenity.

Nature and plants have long been known to support health and well-being. Being in a garden, tending to plants, or simply sitting among them can calm the mind, ease emotional distress, and promote a sense of grounding and balance. These living spaces gently encourage healing for the soul, providing nourishment through beauty, scent, texture, and the quiet rhythms of the natural world.

Each offering is fully tailored to honour the unique wishes, needs, and circumstances of those we support. Timings can be flexible: From brief supportive sessions to extended guidance over days, weeks, or as long as is needed. Whether a single ritual, a series of meetings, or ongoing presence, everything is shaped with care around what feels right for your journey.

Pricing is also tailored as no client is the same. As a rough guide, pricing for private services start at £50 per hour with more in-depth support from £75. This reflects the time, energy, skill, and care devoted to this work, yet we also believe support should not be limited by financial means.

We honour the principle of dāna, an ancient practice rooted in Buddhist, Hindu, and Jain traditions meaning “generosity” or “the act of giving.” Traditionally, it is a way to offer support given freely from the heart without expectation of return. In the modern world it continues as a way to cultivate generosity and ensure accessibility, recognising that meaningful support should be available to all while also honouring fair and sustainable exchange.

If cost is a concern, please reach out and we can explore options that are fair and sustainable for both of us.

If you are interested in any of the offerings mentioned, please click the contact button to send us a message or scroll down to book an enquiry call.

'In the Western world death and grief is often avoided in conversation, even though it is the one certainty we all face. Grief does not only appear when losing a loved one, it appears on many other levels too such as the end of relationships, ancestral grief, sorrow for the world and the list goes on. I aim to offer tailored services for those wanting to change their relationship with death and grief and for those who are seeking guidance with sacred end-of-life transitions. By facing our believes about death we free ourselves to live more fully, transforming death into a sacred companion.

My journey with death began when I was very young, losing family members to disease and old age and my best friend to tragic circumstances. In adulthood I faced further losses: friends to suicide and loved ones including my parents to illness and let's not forget the grief for humanity and the planet. Because of these experiences I have walked through many emotions such as deep grief, anger, guilt, and sadness and I learned to embrace life and death as intertwined forces that bring profound meaning to our existence.

I aim to bring compassion, understanding, non-judgement, and strength to support individuals and families in navigating death and grief with acceptance and even beauty. Together we can honour death as a sacred experience and create meaningful, loving transitions and foster peace, connection, and acknowledgement for all involved.

Sharing your death or grief journey with me means being supported by someone is trained and certified as a death doula, who truly understands loss and who can guide you with empathy, presence, non-judgement, and a deep reverence for life’s final adventure. It would be an honour to hold space for you.'

- Ingrid van Oostrom