Preparing for death is one of the most meaningful and loving acts we can offer ourselves and our loved ones. We provide compassionate and personalised support before death, helping individuals and families befriend death as a natural and inevitable part of life. This approach encourages easing fear, dissolving stigma, and creating space for peace, acceptance, and deeper connection.

By embracing death with openness and curiosity, people can transform their relationship to mortality discovering wisdom, presence, and a fuller appreciation of life’s preciousness. Preparation also allows for practical planning and emotional resilience, which can reduce uncertainty and stress for both the individual and their loved ones.

Through mindful practices, supportive conversations, and tailored rituals, Ingrid invites people to honour their unique journey with dignity and grace, fostering comfort, meaning, and connection in the face of life’s final transition.

This workshop encourages participants to shift their mindset and approach death with openness and curiosity rather than fear.

Through guided discussions, reflective journaling, breathing, and meditative practices this session provides tools to acknowledge our mortality and embrace the concept of death as a natural part of our existence. Transform death from a taboo subject into a source of wisdom leading to a more enriched and mindful life.

A practical and emotional preparation workshop designed to guide individuals, friends, and families through the stages of life’s final transition.

This session covers topics such as creating end-of-life plans and finding emotional resilience during the dying process. Participants will leave with knowledge to feel empowered in making decisions and supporting loved ones at this critical time.

A service for individuals or families to plan for death. This offering includes emotional guidance and the creations of death plans that reflect the individual’s values, beliefs, and desires. Vigils help to reduce stress for both the dying and their loved ones - before, during, and after transitioning.

While the Before, During, After workshop provides practical guidance and emotional preparation for navigating the stages of life’s final transition, Create Vigil focuses on crafting a unique, meaningful vigil that reflects the individual’s wishes and values, bringing comfort and clarity when the time of end-of-life and transitioning comes.

Create Vigil is about shaping the sacred details. From chosen readings and music to symbolic rituals that will hold space for the person and their loved ones at the threshold of death.

Why wait with celebrating the life of a loved one until after death? 'A-Wake' is a unique offering that allows families and friends to gather and celebrate the life of a loved one while they are with us. It is a beautiful opportunity to connect, express gratitude, and show your love to your loved one. It could be organised at any time, on a special date, a birthday, or when end-of-life is approaching.

Create a beautiful space for sharing stories, expressing love, and honouring the individual’s journey in a conscious and uplifting way. Whether it is an intimate gathering or a larger event, we provide guidance in creating a reflective atmosphere and incorporating personal touches that celebrate life in the moment.

A sacred anointment ritual can be offered at any stage in life marking a special phase in life, a profound moment of transition.

For this sacred act Ingrid uses special selected oils tailored to you which honours the sacredness of life’s threshold. Anointing carries ancient significance across cultures symbolising blessing, protection, healing, and peace. It creates a sacred container where presence, love, and intention flow freely, offering comfort and solace to both the individual and their loved ones.

Each ceremony is adapted to reflect personal beliefs, cultural traditions, and individual wishes, making it a unique expression of honour and care. Whether as part of conscious preparation, support during the dying process, or a final farewell, anointing holds space for sacred transition and spiritual connection.

As a horticulturist, herbologist, and death doula, Ingrid offers guidance in creating sacred gardens or meaningful plantings that provide peace, comfort, and connection.

These spaces become places for quiet reflection, shared moments, fun, and deep presence. Each sanctuary is thoughtfully designed to reflect personal values, wishes, preferences, and connections to nature offering a living expression of love and serenity.

Nature and plants have long been known to support health and well-being. Being in a garden, tending to plants, or simply sitting among them can calm the mind, ease emotional distress, and promote a sense of grounding and balance. These living spaces gently encourage healing for the soul, providing nourishment through beauty, scent, texture, and the quiet rhythms of the natural world.

Each offering is fully tailored to honour the unique wishes, needs, and circumstances of those we support. Timings can be flexible: From brief supportive sessions to extended guidance over days, weeks, or as long as is needed. Whether a single ritual, a series of meetings, or ongoing presence, everything is shaped with care around what feels right for your journey.

Pricing is also tailored as no client is the same. As a rough guide, pricing for private services start at £50 per hour with more in-depth support from £75. This reflects the time, energy, skill, and care devoted to this work, yet we also believe support should not be limited by financial means.

We honour the principle of dāna, an ancient practice rooted in Buddhist, Hindu, and Jain traditions meaning “generosity” or “the act of giving.” Traditionally, it is a way to offer support given freely from the heart without expectation of return. In the modern world it continues as a way to cultivate generosity and ensure accessibility, recognising that meaningful support should be available to all while also honouring fair and sustainable exchange.

If cost is a concern, please reach out and we can explore options that are fair and sustainable for both of us.

If you are interested in any of the offerings mentioned, please click the contact button to send us a message or scroll down to book an enquiry call.

'In the Western world death and grief is often avoided in conversation, even though it is the one certainty we all face. Grief does not only appear when losing a loved one, it appears on many other levels too such as the end of relationships, ancestral grief, sorrow for the world and the list goes on. I aim to offer tailored services for those wanting to change their relationship with death and grief and for those who are seeking guidance with sacred end-of-life transitions. By facing our believes about death we free ourselves to live more fully, transforming death into a sacred companion.

My journey with death began when I was very young, losing family members to disease and old age and my best friend to tragic circumstances. In adulthood I faced further losses: friends to suicide and loved ones including my parents to illness and let's not forget the grief for humanity and the planet. Because of these experiences I have walked through many emotions such as deep grief, anger, guilt, and sadness and I learned to embrace life and death as intertwined forces that bring profound meaning to our existence.

I aim to bring compassion, understanding, non-judgement, and strength to support individuals and families in navigating death and grief with acceptance and even beauty. Together we can honour death as a sacred experience and create meaningful, loving transitions and foster peace, connection, and acknowledgement for all involved.

Sharing your death or grief journey with me means being supported by someone is trained and certified as a death doula, who truly understands loss and who can guide you with empathy, presence, non-judgement, and a deep reverence for life’s final adventure. It would be an honour to hold space for you.'

- Ingrid van Oostrom