As death nears, presence, peace, and intention become vital. This sacred time can bring emotional intensity, beauty, and uncertainty for the person dying and for those who love them.

Having a calm and trusted presence outside the immediate circle can be deeply supportive. It allows family and friends to soften into their own experience without needing to manage or hold everything alone.

Ingrid offers compassionate, non-judgemental, grounded, and deeply respectful support for individuals and loved ones navigating the final stage of life. From holding space to sacred ritual, every offering is tailored to honour the uniqueness of the person and the moment. This care helps to ease fear, hold space, and bring clarity, grace, and love into life’s final chapter, reminding all involved that even in dying, connection and meaning are possible.

Whether it is one-on-one support or offered in the presence of loved ones, Ingrid provides non-judgemental, emotional, practical, and optional spiritual guidance during the dying process. This may include legacy work and reflective conversations, guided meditations or yoga nidra to bring peace, breathwork and sacred rituals to support release, help creating a sacred and intentional death space, or emotional and spiritual grounding for loved ones.

Support is flexible and can take place over multiple visits or in presence during the final days or hours. Each encounter is held with deep compassion, non-judgement, listening, and grace, holding space for a death that is sacred and true to the person’s life.

Caring for someone at the end of life is an act of deep love, but it can also be emotionally and physically depleting. Ingrid offers tailored respite care to give caregivers a moment to breathe, rest, and restore.

Depending on your needs, respite may include holding space with your loved one so you can rest, offering light household help or companionship, providing emotional or spiritual support for you as a caregiver, facilitating mindful practices to bring presence.

You are not alone. This offering is here to ensure you are supported too, with care that meets your heart and honours your service.

A sacred anointment ritual can be offered before, during, or after death marking a profound moment of transition.

This profound act using special selected oils brings comfort and honours the sacredness of life’s threshold. The gentle act of anointing carries ancient significance across cultures symbolising blessing, protection, healing, and peace. It creates a sacred container where presence, love, and intention flow freely, offering comfort and solace to both the individual and their loved ones.

Each ceremony is adapted to reflect personal beliefs, cultural traditions, and individual wishes, making it a unique expression of honour and care. Whether as part of conscious preparation, support during the dying process, or a final farewell, anointing holds space for sacred transition and spiritual connection.

In the final hours or days Ingrid offers vigil support to hold space with quiet presence and deep respect for the dying and those close to them. This can be done quietly or with intentional ritual, adapted to the wishes of the individual or loved ones.

Vigil support may include sitting in silence and in companionship ensuring that the dying person’s wishes and journey is honoured and supported, gentle anointing with oils and touch (if desired), reading poems, prayers, or sacred texts, final rituals, breath practices, or mantras. When the time comes, Ingrid can assist with shrouding the body, honoring the sacredness of the physical form and providing a tender transition from life to rest.

Each vigil is guided by the values, wishes, and beliefs of the dying person and their loved ones. This sacred service honours the mystery of life’s final breath bringing beauty, love, and care into the space of transition.

Ingrid holding her father’s hand — a sacred moment of presence, love, and support during life’s final journey.

Each offering is fully tailored to honour the unique wishes, needs, and circumstances of those we support. Timings can be flexible: From brief supportive sessions to extended guidance over a few hours, days, or as long as is needed. Whether a single ritual, a series of meetings, or ongoing presence, everything is shaped with care around what feels right for your and your loved ones journey.

Pricing is also tailored as no client is the same. As a rough guide, pricing for private services start at £50 per hour with more in-depth support from £75. This reflects the time, energy, skill, and care devoted to this work, yet we also believe support should not be limited by financial means.

We honour the principle of dāna, an ancient practice rooted in Buddhist, Hindu, and Jain traditions meaning “generosity” or “the act of giving.” Traditionally, it is a way to offer support given freely from the heart without expectation of return. In the modern world it continues as a way to cultivate generosity and ensure accessibility, recognising that meaningful support should be available to all while also honouring fair and sustainable exchange.

If cost is a concern, please reach out and we can explore options that are fair and sustainable for both of us.

If you are interested in any of the offerings mentioned, please click the contact button to send us a message or scroll down to book an enquiry call.

'In the Western world death and grief is often avoided in conversation, even though it is the one certainty we all face. Grief does not only appear when losing a loved one, it appears on many other levels too such as the end of relationships, ancestral grief, sorrow for the world and the list goes on. I aim to offer tailored services for those wanting to change their relationship with death and grief and for those who are seeking guidance with sacred end-of-life transitions. By facing our believes about death we free ourselves to live more fully, transforming death into a sacred companion.

My journey with death began when I was very young, losing family members to disease and old age and my best friend to tragic circumstances. In adulthood I faced further losses: friends to suicide and loved ones including my parents to illness and let's not forget the grief for humanity and the planet. Because of these experiences I have walked through many emotions such as deep grief, anger, guilt, and sadness and I learned to embrace life and death as intertwined forces that bring profound meaning to our existence.

I aim to bring compassion, understanding, non-judgement, and strength to support individuals and families in navigating death and grief with acceptance and even beauty. Together we can honour death as a sacred experience and create meaningful, loving transitions and foster peace, connection, and acknowledgement for all involved.

Sharing your death or grief journey with me means being supported by someone is trained and certified as a death doula, who truly understands loss and who can guide you with empathy, presence, non-judgement, and a deep reverence for life’s final adventure. It would be an honour to hold space for you.'

- Ingrid van Oostrom